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I strive to create win-win situations with my ex (and his or her new partner). I want us all to get what we need. |
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I treat everyone (including myself) with respect. |
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I'm comfortable with saying 'no'. |
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I know what I want to talk about before starting a conversation or placing a call to my ex-spouse. |
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I don't take it personally or get defensive if my ex speaks to me in an unkind way (name-calling, yelling, intimidating, etc.) I hang up the phone and understand that his behavior is about him, not me. |
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I only talk to my ex when it is necessary |
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I respect my ex's privacy and don't ask inappropriate or probing questions. |
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I don't apologize or overly explain when I state what I need or want. |
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I am open-minded and listen to my ex's needs, wants or suggestions without becoming defensive. |
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I am comfortable with silence during a conversation. |
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I always ask for more time if I'm not ready to commit to something. |
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I am clear (with myself) about my intentions before I start a conversation with my ex. |
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I take excellent care of myself - consistently and at all times. |
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I keep my tone warm and neutral during conversations with my ex. |
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I am direct without being rude. I get to the point without a ton of detail. |
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I listen more than I talk. |
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I have a tactful way to end any conversation if it becomes destructive. |
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Even if I disagree with my ex, I treat him with the same respect I would give myself. |
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I don't use aggressive tactics (name-calling, yelling, intimidating, etc.) when talking to my ex. |
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I get regular support from a divorce recovery coach, therapist or support group |
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