Ready to end the communication nightmare between you and your ex? Be a Solo Mama who is in command of her communication! This assessment will help you see where you need focus in order to be more confident, powerful and effective when negotiating with your ex.
| I strive to create win-win situations with my ex (and his or her new partner). I want us all to get what we need. | |
| I treat everyone (including myself) with respect. | |
| I'm comfortable with saying 'no'. | |
| I know what I want to talk about before starting a conversation or placing a call to my ex-spouse. | |
| I don't take it personally or get defensive if my ex speaks to me in an unkind way (name-calling, yelling, intimidating, etc.) I hang up the phone and understand that his behavior is about him, not me. | |
| I only talk to my ex when it is necessary | |
| I respect my ex's privacy and don't ask inappropriate or probing questions. | |
| I don't apologize or overly explain when I state what I need or want. | |
| I am open-minded and listen to my ex's needs, wants or suggestions without becoming defensive. | |
| I am comfortable with silence during a conversation. | |
| I always ask for more time if I'm not ready to commit to something. | |
| I am clear (with myself) about my intentions before I start a conversation with my ex. | |
| I take excellent care of myself - consistently and at all times. | |
| I keep my tone warm and neutral during conversations with my ex. | |
| I am direct without being rude. I get to the point without a ton of detail. | |
| I listen more than I talk. | |
| I have a tactful way to end any conversation if it becomes destructive. | |
| Even if I disagree with my ex, I treat him with the same respect I would give myself. | |
| I don't use aggressive tactics (name-calling, yelling, intimidating, etc.) when talking to my ex. | |
| I get regular support from a divorce recovery coach, therapist or support group | |
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