Did you know you're leaking? Right now? As you read this? You are. We all are. And I'm not talking about bladder control. : ) I'm talking about small energetic leaks we all have, which we are mostly unaware of, which can add up to a BIG drains on our psyches. Things like agreeing to do something you really don't want to do. Or putting up with the broken toilet seat. Or the messy closet you keep swearing you'll get to. Or tolerating a relationship that is no longer in your best interest. These are the kinds of things that bog us down and make us unhappy.

One of my clients this week was struggling with feeling frustrated, angry and somewhat depressed. She assumed it was about her ex-husband and was targeting her unhappiness toward him (and not finding much relief, btw). But when we explored a little deeper, it turned out that she had a lot of little energy drains going on which had nothing to do with her divorce or ex-husband. Nothing at all. They were smaller leaks, and they were all within her control and all pretty easy to resolve. Once she was able to identify how she was depleting herself, she was able to move forward again - with a whole lot more relief, joy and hope.

What are you putting up with in your life, right now? Don't assume it has all to do with your divorce or your ex. Expand your vision and look at the whole of your life. Be honest with yourself. What are you doing/putting up with/ignoring that if you corrected/eliminated/resolved would improve your life? Make a list, and start with the easy things. Try to scratch off one a day for a week and see if it doesn't lift your spirits and help you to feel lighter, more focused, more excited about your future.

Eliminating your energy leaks is one of the best ways to support yourself as a divorced mom. It not only makes life easier and more enjoyable, but it also gives a strong sense of mastery and control over your life that may be missing since your divorce. Be courageous enough to honestly assess where you are leaking.... and then move on it!

All my love.