November 9, 2012 @ 9:20 AM
I love this post. It's a wonderful, simple reminder that there is always, always, always something to be grateful for - even in the middle of a divorce. Thank you, Kelly Keen Sajonia!
You can follow Kelly at Naked Girl in a Dress. You'll love her!
“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”
~Henry David Thoreau
Right now many people on Facebook are posting daily what they are grateful for during a 30-day period. This is a wonderful concept, starting a daily habit to find the good in life. I believe it should not be done for 30 days a year, but daily. For one simple reason:
Gratitude is the easiest path to living a happy life.
During the most challenging ...
October 4, 2012 @ 5:37 PM
Divorce from a Child's Perspective
As the eight children entered the room, we were filled with excitement and anticipation at what the day would bring. Jenni, Sharon and I had been envisioning this day for months. When we first came up with the idea of children teaching children about challenging life events, we had no idea the journey that our dream would take us on. Yet here we were, on Professor Child’s first filming day, about to hear eight children bravely share their own personal stories of divorce.
Divorce was a natural choice for our first film. We had all been affected by divorce in our own lives and were eager to hear about divorce from a child’s perspective. I had recently ...
September 1, 2012 @ 10:53 AM
My recent guest blog post at Naked Girl in a Dress. Naked Girl is a great blog! Love the work Kelly is up to! Be sure to check her out.
There are about five hundred other topics I could have shared today but I’m sitting here, commando-style, and I think we should talk about that.
My life is a bit of a challenge at the moment, which makes me feel quite vulnerable. There is nothing truly catastrophic about what I’m facing, but I have been challenged to look at some hard realities in my life. It’s not comfortable. I don’t really like it. It makes me want to run and hide and pretend that nothing bad is going on because… I don’t want to fess up to feeling vulnerable.
So I’ve ...
June 29, 2012 @ 10:38 AM
This is what you could be doing with your life, if you let go of your past & dumped your negative emotions:
1. Contribute something meaningful in the world
2. Have more time & emotional bandwidth to listen and be present for those you love
3. Enjoy better health
4. Be inspired, energized and focused every day
5. Have an abundance of amazing opportunities show up, right on time
6. Quickly & easily find solutions to your biggest challenges
7. Enjoying better relationships with your children
8. Improve your self-esteem and confidence
9. Take risks that help you grow and add value to your life
10. Look younger & feel more vitality
11. Go back to school, or improve a skill set
12. Laugh way more often
June 13, 2012 @ 12:21 PM
"I know you are but what am I?"
Remember that famous childhood taunt? We all teased our siblings, cousins, friends at some point. Comparing ourselves to others was a natural part of life (and, besides, it was fun when we got someone's goat! But, comparison can be deadly to living a happy life after divorce. Divorce triggers comparisons because it's a time of uncertainty, loss and stress. There is healthy comparison, and unhealthy comparison. Divorce, sadly, tends to the unhealthy kind. Before you fall down the rabbit hole of comparisons, take note!
1. Ask yourself: Is this healthy or unhealthy comparison? Healthy comparisons are good for you! They won't have any emotional 'tug' to them, and ...
February 10, 2012 @ 10:36 AM
Valentine's Day is just around the corner, and while many people are excitedly making plans to celebrate their partners, many mamas-on-their-own might want to avoid the day all together. If this sounds like you, here are some tips to transform your Valentine's Day blues into a heart-expanding, joyous bliss - without the tub of ice cream.
1. Our culture is somewhat obsessed with romantic & sexual love. The truth is there are many forms of love: Love of life. Love of Spirit or the Universe. Love of family and friends. Love of music or laughing or a beloved pet. Think of all the love that is already present in your life - today, on Valentine's Day, and for all your days going forward. It's probably so much love .........
December 27, 2011 @ 12:43 PM
The New Year is my favorite holiday. I love the reflection and finality of the year before, and the freshness of a chance to improve, grow and change. I take as much time as I can the week between Christmas and New Year to think about what I am letting go of, and what I truly want to bring into my life in the next year. I invite you to do the same. What you sow now, you will reap during the next year. Here are some simple ways to wrap up the year and get focused for the year ahead:
Look back through old day planners and calendars. For each month, take note of your big accomplishments and/or events in each of the following areas of your life: health, career, family, social, spiritual, financial, ............
December 17, 2011 @ 3:03 PM
We're in the final 15 days of 2011. Hard to believe the year is at an end. But as we're all bustling to get holiday celebrations underway, it's important to take some time out and reflect on what this past year has meant to you, and what you would like for your 2012.
There is no better gift you can give yourself as a divorced mom than that of centeredness, awareness & reflection. Without slowing down, you get lost in the busyness of life, and lose vital connection to yourself, your dreams and your purpose. Staying busy keeps you away from the valuable gifts of divorce (yes! There are many!), and more importantly, keeps you from becoming the woman you are meant to become.
December 12, 2011 @ 8:47 AM
If you're like most people these days, your holiday budget is probably a little tighter this year. Don't let that stop you from fully enjoying the Spirit of the Season, Mamas! Here are a few tips to find easy, affordable ways to get your holiday groove on!
1. Fill the house with holiday music
2. Hot cocoa. Need I say more? Make it nice, with marshmallows. Or make it naughty and spike it. Drink it in a special holiday mug
3. Take a walk around your neighborhood and enjoy the lights and decorations
4. Pop popcorn and watch some holiday classics. Rent or do a swap with friends
5. Simmer some cinnamon sticks, orange slices and cloves to fill the house with holiday ...
November 22, 2011 @ 3:47 PM
With Thanksgiving just a day away, some of you may be feeling uneasy about upcoming family and social events. As much fun and happiness the holidays usually bring, if you are divorced (especially if this is your first year divorced) this time of year may also mean additional stress, anxiety and confusion – particularly about how to get through the awkward comments and questions that naturally come up during social events. Here are three communication tips that will help you sail through your conversations powerfully, gracefully and with ease.
Set better boundaries. Let’s face it Ladies, we women are not the best at setting boundaries. Saying ‘no’ and setting healthy ......